Developing the resilience of our children and the mindset to Get Back Up is critical for their future success.  In the series of Get Back Up videos we share the key strategies and tips to cultivate resilient children.

Whatever we pay attention to reflects what we think is important.  More importantly, when we are communicating or being with others, their perception of what we pay attention to then reinforces the respective behaviours.

We all have many choices to make in our lives, many of which seem inconsequential at the time but in hindsight are pretty significant.  I notice that in many cases we experience significant, and sometimes debilitating emotions surrounding choices, which results in us getting stuck in indecision.  If we focus on the past following a decision, we can be overwhelmed by guilt, resentment, regret, and sadness.  On the other hand, if we focus on the future, we become anxious and fearful, which often results in us either procrastinating or coming up with reasons why we shouldn't make the decision.

The Challenge: Take just 5 minutes every morning and write down ONE thing that you APPRECIATE in your life today.  Do this for 30 days.

Essentially, if we believe that mental health is our choice, then we can choose to perceive the world in a certain way. If we believe that mental health is a choice then we empower ourselves to improve our mental health.  We give ourselves a chance to live the lives we want to live.

The “Choice Mindset” empowers a person to choose their life and to create the life they want.  The “Choice Mindset” eliminates excuses.  The “Choice Mindset” generates success and improvement.  The “Choice Mindset” enables the higher road and lifts us to display integrity and authenticity.

I have recently observed and heard a number of senior leaders (and senior OD and HR professionals) seeking only positive emotions in the workplace from their employees.  Furthermore, these same organisations have a view that the experience of negative emotion is ‘bad’ and should be avoided. I am deeply concerned by this growing trend and share below not only the compelling evidence and research but also explain why negative emotions are necessary for success.

No doubt if you are reading this right now you are also a parent.  Like me, you probably ask yourself how you could be better preparing your child for life.

As a parent of two beautiful girls I understand the desire to protect and nurture.  I also know that every parent has the best intentions for the way they parent and provide the caring and nurturing environment that our children need. As a leader I also know that I have a similar genuine intention to develop my people and generate a high performing team.

How important are mistakes?  This question has been playing through my mind over the last few weeks while working on a conference presentation on ‘Disruptive Thinking’ and the work with a number of our clients on cultivating a ‘Culture of Accountability’.  In addition, as a father of two young girls I have been considering the role of mistakes in my daughter’s development and our response as parents to their mistakes. I believe we need to re-evaluate how we respond to mistakes, as both parents and leaders, and consider if we need to re-think how best to harness the power of a mistake.