Total Leader and Coach Solutions Australia Blog

Whatever we pay attention to reflects what we think is important.  More importantly, when we are communicating or being with others, their perception of what we pay attention to then reinforces the respective behaviours.

We all have many choices to make in our lives, many of which seem inconsequential at the time but in hindsight are pretty significant.  I notice that in many cases we experience significant, and sometimes debilitating emotions surrounding choices, which results in us getting stuck in indecision.  If we focus on the past following a decision, we can be overwhelmed by guilt, resentment, regret, and sadness.  On the other hand, if we focus on the future, we become anxious and fearful, which often results in us either procrastinating or coming up with reasons why we shouldn't make the decision.

We have been fascinated about teams and what is required to reach and sustain a high-performance state.  Having worked with a multitude of teams in different settings and environments, we have further confirmed the validity of our high performing elite teams (HPET®) model and framework.  I share below twelve questions that you can use to assess the effectiveness of your team.

We need to urgently and proactively enhance well-being.  We need to start with ourselves and our children.  This article outlines 5 steps to cultivate well-being in ourselves and secondly to reflect on how we can better cultivate well-being and resilience in our children.

We have this faulty belief that if I provide positive feedback and encouragement I will be able to shift this person to high performance.  Further, we believe that if we do need to give negative feedback, that we need to sandwich the negative feedback between two sets of positive feedback i.e. the feedback sandwich. Lastly, we believe that if we provide negative feedback that we will reduce motivation and cause poorer performance. We have got feedback completely wrong.  Our beliefs couldn’t be more incorrect.

At some point in a Leader’s life they will need to manage someone with an Attitude Problem. This is can be a difficult and challenging process and many Leaders feel unskilled in how to manage this situation.

The Challenge: Take just 5 minutes every morning and write down ONE thing that you APPRECIATE in your life today.  Do this for 30 days.

The more we accept the ‘Elephant in the Room’ the more we renovate the room around the elephant, until the elephant grows so large that the elephant is no longer able to exit the room.  It is at this point that we have an ‘Elephant’ sized problem that we are unable to resolve. We need to STOP renovating around the Elephant, and instead start addressing the ‘Elephant in the Room’.  We need to have the courage to speak up in a respectful but direct manner and simply make an observation of the Elephant.